Sunday, 7 September 2014

Shhhh...Are you a secret blogger?

When I first pressed the publish button on my blog only three people knew about it.  My husband, my mum, and my dad.  That was it. Bizarrely I was happy to type away to the world wide expanse that is the internet, but I was basically too embarrassed to tell anyone who actually knew me what I was up to. 


Skip forward to a month of blogging, and the grand total of friends and family in 'the know' had increased to the grand total of six. And to be fair, that was because people had clicked on links on my Instagram rather than me actually telling them. 

Skip forward to today, and erm, well, my grand total is under 10. And no, this is not because I am a social recluse and have limited friends. I am actually still embarrassed. I worry people will think I am ego-centric, I worry people will question what I write and basically I worry about being judged. Even as I type this, I realise this says alot more about my own personal insecurities, because deep down I know that friends and family would not say or think that. I know that if I told them they would be lovely and supportive.  But this ladies and gentleman, is my inner critic talking, and the girl does not shut-up. 

I am more than happy to tweet to random strangers about a new blog post, but tell one of my friends? Nah. It's just too much! And so this got me thinking, do other bloggers tell the world about their blog? And when I say, the world, I actually mean your nearest and dearest? Do family and friends know about your internet typing's, do your work colleagues know? Do the other mums at the school gate know about your awful week because you just blogged about it?   

I read somewhere you should be your own self-promotion when it comes to blogging and maybe one day I will have the courage to shout it loud and proud that I blog, but for the moment its my little secret...between me, you and the world wide web that is.  But to you, I am a complete stranger.  And there is something oddly comforting in typing my ramblings and thoughts to strangers for me, it makes me feel more confident in expressing what I want to say. So lets keep it between us for now? 

I often wonder if I told mum's at messy play or playgroup my secret, would they just have to log on to have a nosey to see if I actually own any clothes that aren't covered in paint or play dough? Possibly. I know I certainly would. 

So all fellow bloggers...what are your thoughts? I am fascinated to know, please join in and comment below!

As always, thank you for reading! 



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47 comments:

  1. I try and be a secret blogger but people slowly find out! No-one at work knows, and I want to keep it that way, but I am gradually becoming okay with friends and family reading my blog!

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  2. I started out a secret blogger, but then realised I'd be able to promote better via my personal twitter- most of my followers are strangers, but not all. My brother and sister found it and then one of my friends said she'd read it too! I told just one friend about starting it- the others have just 'discovered' it. I still worry about people finding it and judging me for it, but actually haven't had any problems with it yet!
    Jennifer x
    www.ginevrella.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. So interesting to hear your thoughts! Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment x

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  3. I am absolutely a secret blogger! Like you I worry what friends and colleagues will think of me if they discovered this other side of me. Sounds strange but I worry less about hitting the 'publish' button because no one I know is actually reading it. A colleague on twitter told me she loves my blog and I nearly died. Is it because she knows me? Would she say something if it was bad and cringe-worthy? Then again I'd like to know from nearest and dearest if it was really good or bad! Confused, I know

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    1. Completely agree! Its such a tricky one! I want that input from close ones but at the same time I don't want them to read it!!!!! x

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  4. Ah I'm a gobby cow and everyone and his dog knows! Ha! I do find that 99.9% of people are really supportive and it does help when your friends know as they are willing to share things for you and like your Facebook page. They do however think I am insane mind. Congrats on the Mumsnet Hun! xxxxxx

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  5. Hubby knows I blog, but that's it. He wouldn't be able to tell you my name or site and I'm fine with that! Too embarrassing! I have twitter accounts separately for blog and personal - never the twain shall meet! My daughter has read a few posts and thinks I'm amazing - but she's 8! ;)

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    1. :-) Most people seem to be top secret like me! There could be bloggers lurking everywhere...we just don't know it!!!
      Thank you so much for commenting x

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  6. I had palpitations when I made the decision to tell 'real-life' people about my blog. But practically everyone's been super-supportive of my efforts to over-share/blag stuff. I enjoy blogging, they enjoy fly-fishing or whatever it is they like doing....each to their own. But I have to admit, I do feel a bit queasy when I meet someone locally who knows me already, through my blog, because some kind friend has been promoting it for me....

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    1. Blogging is a very weird and wonderful thing!
      Thank you so much for commenting and stopping by! x

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  7. What a fab post! It feels just like me a few months ago. I pressed 'publish' for the first time in November last year and told nobody about it for the same reasons you mentioned above. It is only 3 months later, when I created my FB page that people I knew found out about it. I am glad I found you through #MBPW x

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    1. Thank you so much! What a lovely comment :-) x

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  8. I know that my parents sometimes read my blog, but I think it's very sporadically.
    I have a few friends in the car seat world that do read it, but mostly I think it's only read by strangers. :)
    Which is OK haha...I also feel that I can better write if I'm not "worried" about anyone I know reading something, especially if it's a soar subject. :)

    #MBPW


    ERFmama | www.erfmission.com

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting and stopping by! So interesting to hear your thoughts and your blogging secrets! x

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  9. This is me! I have hardly told anyone because I am embarrassed. If you ever work out how to tell everyone please do a blog post about it!!

    http://playathometeacher.blogspot.co.uk/

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    1. Thank you so much for reading! Ermmm think I am a little way off from telling the world just yet...I find it so much easier to write with some anonymity! x

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  10. I am definitely a secret blogger… Yes, I did just start yesterday but I have no intention of telling anyone I know because of all the insecurities I post about.

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    1. Oh wow! Welcome to the blogging world! Will pop over and check it out! Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting x

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  11. I'm a bit of a secret blogger too. I blog for my business (which people do know about) but my personal blog about me and my family is a bit of a secret. Not quite sure why but it's still fairly new

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and joining the conversation. There are alot of top secret bloggers out there! x

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  12. I say do whatever is right for you. If you're enjoying writing for the sake of writing, that's great. With time, you may want to shout about it - or not. Either is fine! Your blog is about you, not anyone else. xxx #sharewithme

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  13. I started my blog for me, then my mum read it because it was easier to share photos of N with her there than on Facebook. I then wanted to increase readership so shared posts on facebook. I hope I don't write anything that would offend people - although I do sometimes arrive at nursery to have them offer to do something helpful like have N there for longer outside hours, because I'd written about the rush it was getting from work to pick him up etc. But overall it's been fine. I now don't usually share on my facebook profile - hopefully those who want to read, see it on my page instead.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts...I'm so interested reading what other bloggers do! x

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  14. I must say my blog is out there for family and friends and anyone who will read it, though I'm pretty sure my friends don't read it, just the family up country as they complain it is the only way they find out what I'm doing! Great post though and it looks like you are not alone. #sharewithme

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    1. Thank you and yes, I think there are a few secretive bloggers out there! Thanks for stopping by! x

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  15. I started off pretty anonymously but now my mom and a few friends read. I don't broadcast it but don't hide it either. I don't share many posts on my personal fb page but am getting more devil may care about who knows the more confident I am in my bog x #sharewithme

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    1. Yes, I think confidence does have alot to do with it, and I'm not at the very confident stage yet!!!
      Thanks for reading x

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  16. Ha ha - this was so me as well. I blogged for about a year just for me, I don't think I even got to three at the start! So what changed, well my life did - I stopped working in the place I'd worked for 30 years and took some time out. I decided then to go a bit more public, but with only people I didn't know. It wasn't until I was meeting up with old work mates all wanting to know what I was up to and repeating myself over and over again in the same evening that I decided to go for it. That post went bananas and now when I meet up with people from work they tell me what I'm up to as they've read my blog! I'm sure there'll be a trigger or a time when it feels right, but until then carry on sharing with Linkys and feel the support of other bloggers (I was and am grateful for the support I've had from them, lovely people :) ) #sharewithme

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  17. I'm a new and currently secret blogger. It's not that its a secret as such its just I haven't really been bothered to tell anyone yet. I'm sure that day will come. Besides, I have all my new blogging buddies now. I'm happy just as I am at this present moment. Great Post btw!

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    1. Thank you so much! And welcome to the secret bloggers club! :-) x

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  18. I often share my posts on Facebook on my personal page so I've 'come out' in that respect. Sometimes I get self-conscious but then I think "hey, you can doooo this!" And I do! Keep going without the shhhh ;) #sharewithme

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  19. No I am not secret. I don't really mind who knows what I do. Interesting post though x #ShareWithMe

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    1. Thank you! And thanks for stopping by! x

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  20. I have to say I've felt a bit like you and do still to some extent over 18 months later. Most of my friends and some family know but the school mums do not. Why? I suppose I don't want my son to be ridiculed or to justify why I blog to others! I also don't fancy being the sourse of gossip! Lol! #MMWBH

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    1. I know...that's my fear too!
      Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment x

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  21. I know exactly how you feel! When I started blogging I didn't even publish my posts at first. Now everyone I know reads my blog and I find it quite liberating actually. Sometimes I find things easier to write than say and when that's the case I can explain myself better by directing people to my blog x x

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    1. I'm not at that stage yet, but its good to hear you find your blog such a useful way to express and explain yourself.
      Thanks for reading and commenting! x

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  22. I think your fears are justified, but try not to think about it too much! My blog started with a few people knowing, but then I realised that the best way of growing it would be via friends and family sharing and liking. It also has the added benefit of people who we don't see often being able to keep informed of what Baby L is doing, particularly when both of our parents live quite far away etc.

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    1. Thank you! I think alot of it is down to confidence and I'm still very new at blogging!
      Thanks for reading and taking the time to comment x

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  23. My mother (who lives in the Philippines) looks at my blog but since shes got poor eyesight she only look at the photos. Which I am so glad (not glad about the poor eyesight) because a lot of my post are ramblings about my marriage. The blog is my way of updating them on how my son is and whats he up to. Part of me wishes my blog is anonymous. Might do that if I can start over. No one amongst my son's schoolmates and the parents knows I blog too. Better that way I think. #sharewithme

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    1. Its a tricky one isn't it. Once its out there its hard to then make it anonymous again! Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting x

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  24. It's a fine line isn't it mixing your virtual world with your personal family and friends. I went six months and only told my hubby. Then probably another 2 months before I told my immediate brothers sister and parents. But apart from that it was like you only through my social media that my extended family after a year and half know a little more about it. None of them read it regularly and I am always having to explain what a blog even is over and over. But I was very much embarrassed that I would get laughed at. And whilst i do it for a living now I still find when people say what do you do I don't want to say blogger for a job title. i am embarrassed. But it pays my bills and is very hard work so I shouldn't be embarrassed at all. We should be very proud of it. Thanks for linking to Share With Me. I hope to see you again next week. #sharewithme

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    1. You're right, you shouldn't be embarrassed at all!
      As a professional (pre my career break!), I am in awe that you are so talented to be able to blog full time. I think as my blog is so new I definitely feel embarrassed telling people, I'm not sure if that will change or not the longer I blog for. Its reassuring to hear I'm not the only one though and thank you so much for taking the time to stop by. And as always thanks for such a fab linky and I will see you next week! x

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