Monday, 9 March 2015

Turn the day around

Whether you have got those Monday morning blues, feel like a zombie on 2 hours sleep or are just having 'one of those' days, here are a few of my tips to help turn your day around. But first, a little disclaimer. This list will not make your worries magically disappear, nor stop your child from throwing their potty/food/nappy/hard plastic toy at your head (delete as applicable).  But, I hope this list will turn one of 'those' days into a day that isn't quite so bad.   

1. It's OK
Seriously, when we have a down day or feel a bit sad, how many of us beat ourselves up for even thinking this way? How dare we feel sad when we have a roof over our heads, a beautiful family and children, money in the bank account. How dare we feel a bit down! We are so unappreciative!!! And then, we feel guilty.  So now not only do we feel down, we feel guilty too.  Perfect.  Everyone has their better days and their not so good days. That's what makes us human.  That is life. Let yourself feel what you feel. Accept it and recognise that feeling. And now give yourself a break. Take a deep breath and onto the important bit...try and turn the day around. 

2. Get dressed, brush your hair and plan to do something you like to do
Nothing makes you feel worse than when you peer into the mirror and resemble a cave woman (no offence).  Make yourself look vaguely presentable and ready to face the day and then do something that feels good.  This could be painting your nails, watching a funny movie, eating chocolate or ringing a friend. If you only have 5 minutes why not read a magazine and grab a cup of tea? Whatever is your thing, go and do it.  Be kind to yourself. If you have a little one in tow, then maybe it's more about avoiding the 'danger' zones. Don't under any circumstances get the paints /glue /water table/ play dough out. Any type of messy play plus a bad day is a recipe for disaster. 

3. Shut that gremlin in the cupboard
I don't mean any annoying family members here.  I mean THE gremlin.  Oh yes, you know the guy.  He's the little voice inside your head that tells you that you look awful in the mirror. He criticises your hair.  Makes you feel stupid.  We all know him only too well. Gremlins especially like to hang about and wait for a day when you are your most vulnerable and then he whispers his rubbish to you and you start to believe him. Stop! Ok, so you may not have Jennifer Aniston's hair or Gwyneth Paltrow's body...but so what?! And I hate to be the bearer of bad news but you didn't have their hair or bodies yesterday either.  So shut him in the cupboard for today and give yourself a break.   

4. Do something for someone else
So this might seem a bit of an odd thing to include, but bear with me here.  Don't you find when you do something nice for someone else you just feel better? It might be sending a thank you note to someone or sending a nice text to a friend or loved one. Or maybe smiling at a stranger (though not in a creepy way) or complimenting someone on their hair or clothes.  By doing something nice for someone else we not only make someone else feel better, but as if by magic, that good vibe stays with us to. Try it. 

5. Smile and dance 
Have you heard that phrase 'fake it until you feel it'? It actually works. So you want to feel happy and feel like this is the best day ever? Act like it is.  And why can't this be the best day ever? It's just a day. Put Beyonce on full volume (or maybe your toddler is demanding Frozen), turn up the volume and get those feet moving.  This can and will be a good day. 

5. If all else fails...tomorrow is another day
When I first had my daughter and was weeping at being too exhausted to brush my own hair, my mum used to say to me, 'don't worry Laura, tomorrow is another day'. And she was right.  Sometimes you have to just accept those bad days and welcome the next day with open arms. But everything isn't going to end today. Your track record in surviving the off days is pretty good so far isn't it? Exactly. So today might not have gotten off to the best start, but that's OK.  In fact, it's all OK. Take a deep breath, and let's get this day started. 

Have you any tips for turning bad days around? Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. 

Thanks for reading,    

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