Wednesday, 19 August 2015

Can you blog with an anonymous family?

Right before I started my blogging journey, my husband and I sat down and discussed if he wanted to feature on my blog at all.  His immediate response was 'no way', and he has never really changed his mind. Whilst he is happy for me to blog away about our family life, he is quite clear that he doesn't want his name or any pictures of him being posted (except a cheeky one of his legs that I sneaked past him last month!).  Also, just a disclaimer, this may read like my husband is a world famous celebrity and we need to keep his identity hidden, but he isn't. 

We both also discussed the possibility of my daughter's picture being on the blog, and again, for various reasons he really wasn't comfortable with the idea.  So aside from some back of the head shots and a picture where my daughter is incognito and dressed up, my family is a pretty big question mark over at Laura Evelyn Bee.  It makes me wonder if I'm missing out? Am I going against the blogger grain? 


I only have to scroll through my Blogger or Instagram feed, and I see and read about other blogger's families.  I admire their children's style or their tantrum antics captured for all to see.  I love seeing such personal posts and seeing children growing and proud parent blog posts. I never judge anyone else for including pictures of their little ones, and in fact, I love reading their posts.

Part of me thinks that people connect so much with blogs because they really give you an insight into someone else's life.  Can people even get an insight and connect with my blog with such an anonymous family? 

I also think from a brand point of view, that with an anonymous family, I am very unlikely to be picked by any major brands.  But then I guess, that's not why I started blogging.  I started blogging for me, to be creative and try something new. 

Blogging was and is something that I am passionate about, and I feel that neither my husband nor my daughter have made that decision.  It is only right that I respect their privacy while I happily snap away. And we are both parents. It really isn't my decision to make alone. My husband has to be 100% happy too. 

So for now, I will continue with my daughter's cheeky face being unknown and my husband being a complete mystery.  I hope my words and stories are strong enough for now to paint the picture of my everyday life and being a mum. 

I would love to hear your thoughts on this.  Are you a blogger who shares pictures of your children? Was it something you ever discussed with your partner?  Do you think you can blog with an anonymous family?

Thanks for reading, 



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20 comments:

  1. This is really interesting Laura as I had never thought of your family being anon at all! Perhaps I am not very observant... but I think it's more that not including photos of them hasn't stopped you at all from coming across as personable and offering insights into family life and all the things you do together. So I don't think it's a negative at all.

    I can understand concerns around your daughter's picture too. I didn't think a whole lot about it with me if I'm honest. I always watermark the photos as mine and don't share a whole lot of him on Instagram. But, he is still out there. I guess a lot of people use Facebook very liberally with hundreds of 'friends' (but people they don't know actually that well) so to me it doesn't seem too different. BUT, it's something that does cross my mind from time to time and something I will review and perhaps change as my blog does.

    Very interesting post and just want to say it definitely doesn't have a negative impact on your site - you always have fab images and I love the one for this post!

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    1. That's really kind of you to say, thank you!

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  2. Likewise, your blog definitely feels personal and family oriented, even if you don't actually share pictures of your family so it is still lovely to read and definitely doesn't distract.

    I am the total opposite and probably share more pictures of my hubby and daughter than of myself. Probably because it is always me behind the camera. Each to their own, I enjoy looking at pictures of kids, but I do also understand why you would rather not to :)

    #brilliantblogposts

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    1. Thank you, and I think it's a very personal decision isn't it? I think if they were on my blog, like you, I would be the one behind the camera all of the time...instead of the usual me trying to fight with my tripod!!!!

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  3. When I started I did everything anonymously, as I wouldn't have really had confidence for it if anyone knew it was me anyway! When I became a Huffington Post Blogger, I had to use my name for that. &, as my name was on that, I then set up the fb page I had been unsure on and, of course, for the groups on there I have to use my personal profile. So my name is out there now, though I still use blogging name whenever I can. But I have never named or shown any pictures of my kids or partner. I'm not planning on changing that any time soon. Our children have never been announced, named or pictured on our fb accounts or anywhere, as we decided we wanted to keep them off the internet & social media until they were old enough to choose for themselves. So obviously, when I started blogging, it would not then make sense to put them all over my blog. I prefer them being anonymous, but I think it does hold back blog a bit, as I can't put on any photos. I have started using free images a bit when promoting on twitter & fb, as that is supposed to make posts more attractive, but it's not as easy as if photos were in blog. & pinterest doesn't work great for me!

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    1. Yep, completely agree. Really good to hear from someone who has an anonymous family too! Thanks for reading.

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  4. I talk about my family and put their photos on the blog, but don't use their names. If you write well, as you do, then you can give a sense of their personalities etc without actually telling the world their names or sharing images. Family before blog! #brilliantblogposts

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  5. I wonder the exact same thing! My husband & I had the same conversations. He doesn't want to be featured & we both don't want photos of the kids on my blog or social media. But like you said, it looks so nice to see other people's kids & there'd be more to show off on Instagram if I was taking pics of my kiddies. It's a hard choice to make. I hope people feel like they can relate to my blog. I never noticed the lack of family photos on yours - love this one on the top btw! Great post, you literally read my mind! I'll check back later to see what other people comment, I was interested reading the ones before me ;) #brilliantblogposts

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    1. Thank you! And again, great to find someone else in a similar situation. I thought I was the only one!!!

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  6. I blog totally anon, and I don't think i'd have it any other way. It allows me to be me without fear of upsetting anyone we know and without embarrassing the kids when they're older. I don't think a blog needs to show the whole of your family life. It works just as well without. #brilliantblogposts

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    1. Yes, there are certainly alot of positives with blogging anonymously.

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  7. I blog about my family, and my blog is even named after my son but I can totally understand why people don't want to share their family on the internet. A friend of mine who started a blog had some really nasty events where someone stole her photos of her little girl to make a derogatory joke about disabled kids . This did make me think about if I really wanted my son to be on the internet..but well, we're still here! xx #brilliantblogposts

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    1. Thanks for your comments, what happened to your friend is awful.
      Thanks for stopping by x

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  8. This is really interesting. I never really gave any thought to privacy when I started my blog, I wrote it for me as a way of keeping memories. I feature photos of my daughter regularly, and refer to her by name. I wasn't aware enough of the blogging world to come up with a code name for her then. I do worry she might get annoyed about it when she's older, but I do regularly check she's not googleable (totally a word) via my blog, because I think that would be awful when she's at school. x

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    1. Yes, that's a really good point that things can change as and when children get older. Thanks for taking the time to stop by and comment.

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  9. My OH refuses to have anything of him online. No photos (well, the occasional snapped back or leg in another photo) on social media or the blog, although he hasn't banned N. But then he's never seen the blog to check how many photos are on there. I started off as it being a journal for N and me, so it didn't occur to me to make it more private, but he's now referred to as N. I guess once he's at school that might change, and I've no idea what I'll write about then if he wants me to stop...will have to up my general photography I guess!

    I think not having the whole family has stopped me from getting some opportunities in particular on the family travel side of things. The OH works all the time, so never comes out with us on family days out, so for us to represent a brand for a family outing, it probably feels like half a family..because we're not a single parent family, but the whole family isn't involved.

    There are blogs who don't show their children's faces, but still do well - Mumof3World for example - and still talks a lot about her children.

    Definitely an interesting topic.
    #brilliantblogposts.

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    1. Thanks for your comments, and it's nice to hear of successful blogs that have an anonymous family similar to mine! Thanks for reading.

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  10. This was really interesting to read as I'm similarly blogging without sharing pictures or even names of my family. While I love looking at the blogs of people who share photos and use their blogs almost as diaries, both my husband and I aren't comfortable with this for ourselves. I've never liked the idea of sharing too much on social media, so it would be a bit hypocritical for me to start over sharing on my blog. Mostly though, I want to be able to write honestly about my experiences of motherhood, with the vulnerable and low moments along with the highs, in a way that still leaves my daughter with her own choice about the information that appears about her online. It's tough to find a balance though!

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    1. Thank you so much for your comments and for stopping by. It's so good to hear about other bloggers in a similar position to me.

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